I'm glad you're going out. I know music can always cheer me up. So, just for a few hours, enjoy yourself.
As far as being grateful, I know that when I was using, I took my family's love for granted. With recovery, I am very grateful. Whether she learns gratitude is another thing that's on her. YOU know you've done the best you can do...just like Marle and the other moms on here have done.
Just remember...Jen doesn't use to hurt you, she doesn't use because of anything you did wrong, she uses in spite of everything you did right (same for the rest of the moms here and their kids). As much as you love them, you just don't have the power to make them use.
Now....go have fun!