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Hi!

I started realizing I had major problems with self worth about a year ago. I started seeing a counselor and went to an alanon meeting after reading the book the ACoA syndrome. when I read it I realized they were explaining our family to a "T".

Anyhow, I told my parents that I went and how I was feeling, and where I thought it came from and they were insulted and angry with me.

After that I didn't tell my two younger brothers.

The youngest who still lives at home with them came over yesterday and we had a long talk. I told him about what I had learned about myself, and he started to see it in him also. We began talking about our dad.

We see certain things about our parents that are not healthy, and we both want them to be.

My dad acts like a child, the simplest things are the biggest problems he gets so upset and almost throws tantrums if he can't find something, and then my mom comes to the rescue. My brother told me yesterday that he is hurt by how my dad treats him. He doesn't talk to him about his day, the first thing my dad says to him is a judgement or a "why haven't you taken the garbage out". My mom also seems very unhappy and they argue a lot. My dad just comes home from work and plays online dominoes until he goes to bed, my brother sees this as a filler for alcohol.

We both feel like we know our dad is hurting inside, and we both feel like we don't know anything about him. We want to build communication but I don't know if they are ready for it.

What would you recommend?