Originally Posted by
mle-sober 
Yeah - it sounds like he is an expert at feeling sorry for himself and attempting to get others to buy into his sob story. Sounds like an addict, to me. Just get your mind really clear about what he's doing. He is using you. And he's an addict/acoholic.
All you have to do is be clear - write it down if you need to - and the rest is easy. You do not need to let him take advantage of your family, you do not need to make it easy for him to drink. You have your own life to live and he needs to get out of your life and into his.
I'm pulling for you.
The sister that dares confront him about stuff often gets frustrated with me because I don't confront him. She tells me he is taking advantage of us. At first, it didn't feel like he was, but now that he has lost his job, I feel it. It's as if any possible hardships or stress he's causing us don't register, because, after all, HIS life is so terrible...
The thing is, he has lived with all of us at one time or another (this is his second time with us), and every time, he doesn't leave until people get so angry with him that they kick him out. The first time he lived with me, I told him to leave after I discovered that he had stolen money from me.
The only reason we allowed him to come here this time is because his rooms are entirely separate from ours, and he has his own entrance. We also thought that he was no longer drinking/drugging because he had previous been clean and sober.