Apology - what's that?? When AH and I were in our "last ditch effort" counseling sessions that was my biggest AHA moment. I explained a few of the issues that were causing me to be unhappy. My AH sat there and said, "I'm sorry, but I didn't mean it" . . . "I'm sorry, but she shouldn't feel that way". That's when I realized that it was always going to be "I'm sorry, but . . . . . (somehow it's not my fault -- it's hers)". I knew that I could not take anymore, and that I had to leave.