I have seen a lot of people get sober in a whole lot of different programs.
Find one that works best for you....
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-programs.html
Some programs are more rigid than others, some people are more rigid than others too.
Every program has something for someone, seek out the positives, look for those who have something to share in regards to sobriety and recovery....these people have "real recovery".....and that is what we all want.
Seren