The "no contact rule" is a rule that you decide you are not going to have ANY contact with him for a set period of time....no phone calls, no texts, no e-mails, no f2f visits. It helps tremendously, because it allows you to put the focus on YOU and what you want from life.
Sometimes, we can be doing really good, then they'll call us, full of remorse, promising the world, and we get sucked back in.
The length of "no contact" varies. Some people can only do it a day at a time, others will decide on 2 or 3 weeks, or a month. Thing is, you can extend that time at any time.
You just tell him "I need some time to think, and I don't want to talk to you or hear from you for -------". If he tries to call, you don't answer. If he texts you, you don't read it. It's hard, but it is so worth it! It gets you out of the chaos and drama of HIS addiction, and lets you work on your own life.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy