Another mom here,
As if it isn't hard enough going through all the things we've gone through with our addict children, we have to second guess ourselve in their recovery too.
I can only speak for myself but I'm sure you can relate.
I know that I have done all that I could for my son, and of course that includes enable him. But from money, food, a place to live, fixing his car, paying his car insurance, giving him cigarette money and so on and so on. But I also gave him my love, advice, guidance, support and everything else a mother could give.
with all that being said, now my RAS is doing well however, our relationship is not the same as it was BD (before drugs) I'm not sure of the reason but I feel as though he knows that I know him better than he knows himself and that might make him insecure.
But what can I do, this is not my problem it's his, I will gladly do whatever he needs to make him feel better, but without a conversation regarding our relationship it is what it is.