Originally Posted by
bluejay6 
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but the man you love will no longer be able to care about you or your children, if he doesn't get clean. in fact, it is likely he will come to hate you.
This can't be more spot-on true. I have found that many addicts in active addiction *deeply* resent and trash those who have bent over backwards to help them the most, which always seem to be the people the addict has wronged the most and are the people who know the most about the addict.
Though I have yet to get a real answer for this, it seems to me the addict does this to not feel regret for screwing up a good thing, so-to-speak. Far easier to place the blame on someone else than it is to take responsibility for what your addiction cost you. Again.
Great point, bluejay.