Hey Cherbear-
I have just read this whole thread and I just want to send you a big HUG!
As a daughter/sister of alcoholics/addicts I just want to say your kids may never know the huge gift you have given them by ending the relationship w/ your ABF. But many of us children of addicts/alcoholics know. In the days/weeks ahead if you feel a ripple in your plan just remember those little people will be spared alot of misery and suffering by your decisions. (and you will too!)
Sometimes we have to act with our head and not our heart. It is NOT EASY but it is worth it. And it is the most powerful example we can give our children....be worthy of their imitation.
You will find great support here for whatever the future brings.
Peace,
B.