Wow...I was looking for support but had no idea it would happen so fast. Thanks so much for your responses. I know I should let him go...I already have. But the thought of having the sober version back makes me want to try again....even though I know I will have to let go again. He is not going to stop forever and I know that. It's strange that his decision to quit again is what is pushing me to let him go completely. I've never really liked roller coasters when they're supposed to be fun. This one is not fun. I want off. I'm just not sure I have the strength to do it.
I'm going to google this codependency thing. I'm not sure what it means, but just the title sounds like it could be me...