intentional- wish i had some great advice, but unfortunately i too am in your shoes, have been for a long time. my ah and i also run a business together. right now he is clean, but it is more of a dry drunk type of clean, hes not in any recovery program. i continue to work on my plan b so that when, if, the day comes that i need to leave with our 4 kids, i can do so and still support the kids financially. right now, thats not an option and he won't ever leave either. you'll get lots of great advice here, my best advice is to stick around, keep posting and maybe try to get to some alanon, naranon meetings if you haven't already.