Sorry you are going through this, my prayers are with you. It is very frustrating, I know. If my AH makes a mess in the house (like peeing the bed, etc) and it bothers ME, I will clean it up because I live here too and he really has gotton to the point where he doesn't care much anymore. I just keep telling myself that I won't be doing this forever and look forward to the day when I can live on my own again.