That is tough work! I'm been there and still am there....
. I remember when I would go through the motions of everyday not
really realizing how damaging I was being to myself. I believe a big part of breaking out of this mode is actually having some quality time reflecting on yourself so that you can see the things that you feel should/could be changed to make your life better. That's why I have adopted the "me first and everything else is secondary" idea because if I don't keep my own life balanced and healthy then everything else that follows that can't be all that balanced and healthy.