Sorry XJ...I am just having a bad day, but it seems to me that it is kind of rude to talk about someone else in the "third person" when they are pretty much right there. I also think it is kind of cruel to place such a burden on someone to be a role model for others when they are struggling so much themselves!
JMHO, but you have to take care of YOU first!
Bleh, I am sure I probably DID read this thread wrong anyways...I just didn't understand how your name came into the picture.
Take care!:ghug3
Jane