hairgirl

My friend, and a client of mine jumped off an overpass onto the freeway below last week.My friend had been fighting the battle for some time, and he just couldn't fight anymore.
You have been somewhere he could never find on his own, SOBER. You have to admit that there is good with it, otherwise you would not be here.Truth is, I am pissed at you for giving in.I came here to read you regular good words, but you caved.Why?? It never gets better,NEVER.Don't you see how fu$#ed shooting dope is,man?? Your body, your mind deserve better than that.I have no kind words or sympathy, that is crap.You do need a kick in your ass.Maybe if the shoe reaches your brain, you will realize you are worth far more than a bag of dope.
I have been sitting around trying to figure out what more I could have done to help my friend, crying, hating this disease, and I came across this:

I RECENTLY READ THIS WRITTEN BY A METH ADDICT. THIS HAS HELPED ME, UNDERSTAND AND FORGIVE MYSELF IN KNOWING THERE WAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING I COULD DO TO HELP. I HAD TO POST THIS AND SHARE WITH ALL.

You can't make me clean

I know it is what you want for me to be, but until I want it - I won't be.

You can't love me clean ...because until I learn to love myself. I won't be.

I know you must wonder how can I learn to love myself when I am caught up in a lifestyle of self-hatred and self destruction. I can learn from my own experience ... I can learn from the things that happen to me along the path of my own mistakes. I can learn by being allowed to suffer the consequences of my choices. Life has a funny way of teaching us the lessons we need learn.

I know it devastates you to watch me hurting myself. I know you want to jump in and save me. This helps ease your pain, but I don't think you understand just how damaging it is to me.

You see although I look and sound like your loved one. Me, the person .. is locked away deep down inside my being. What you see before you is a addict ruled and reigned by my addiction. The main focus of an addict is to feed the addiction. Every effort you put forth in the name of helping me *the person* falls prey to my addict giving more power to the addiction to shackle down *the person in me .. a little more each time.

I feed my addiction enough ... please don't help me.

The only way for the person in me to get free is to be free .. to fall as far as I need to go in order to find the strength to fight back and break free.

How can or will I ever be able to get clean.

The same way I gave myself over to my addiction is the same way I can give myself over to my recovery. BY MYSELF

By allowing me to reach 'rock bottom' you move over and allow me to find my own way back .. It is in the fight to break free that I will find myself .. it is in the fight that I learn to love myself .. the more I love myself the more I will do to better myself.

I am aware that when I use I am playing Russian roulette with my life. I know this, but that is a chance we take when we use. The addict in me is willing to take that chance in the name of getting high. Rock bottom is but a circumstance away. I can't get in if you are blocking the entrance ...
Please for the sake of the person in me .. move out of the way .. and let me fall as far down as I have to in order to reach the bottom .. and pray for me that when I do hit .. that is not with the impact that leaves me for dead (I know that is your greatest fear), but if it comes to that .. be sure to tell my story so that others might learn and live.

It's the least I could do...I will pray for you, Bro...-H.G.