if enough resentments build up, it will kill the love you feel for him.
but my resentments make me very sick so i have to work my own program to release them.
i try not to accept unacceptable behavior. but i can't change what has already happened. all i can do is my best with the tools i have a the time.
learning the facts about the disease of alcoholism has been really important to me. for example, that business of acting like nothing awful ever happened...that's classic alcoholic stuff. but there i am, never forgetting. very bad mix. every day i learn to keep the focus on myself and try to be the woman I want to be.
al-anon has been the key to any peace of mind i have.