most of the time, it's premeditated when, someone goes out.
Quit going to meetings avoiding people in the program
Going to slippery places, being in company with people that drink
etc.
You can't stop someone that wants to go back and drink, no more then you can get someone sober that's drinking.
Every day I get up, I have to continue to do the things that I did the day before. At least, that's what I've done for several years now.
Question is, what do they do now? Will they take an honest look at what happen and decide, it's not worth it.
Repeat this, there's nothing a drink today that, will make my life better.
My worst day sober has yet to be as bad as my last drunk. Plain and simple.
We've got a saying, those that, can't recall their last drunk haven't had it yet.
I do make a point of checking up on my friends in AA if, they're absent. Usually, it's a good idea to tell your sponsor or someone you're going to be gone when, you can't make a meeting or two for a while.