Sorry Kindeyes, brings back memories....I want to echo Peaceteach here....i had to end the torture with my AD by putting boundaries in place with her, written and verbal. that she could not be abusive or come near me or call me under the influence, and after excusing myself and getting off the phone with her and walking away from her as soon as I smelled alcohol on her breath enough times she started to take me seriously....I HAD to do that for myself, that was my line in the sand....It was hard at first but after a while it got easier....I think you did good.......
hugs, grateful