Laura,
I did the same.
The first time, I really sent lots of money, and envelopes, and paper, and care packages.
The second time I sent "some" money, envelopes and paper.
The third time, no money..sent envelopes and paper. Blocked collect calls from phone.
He goes to court pretty soon, and I'm sure he's going back for a FOURTH time.......have to decide what I'll send...LOL
Hugs, NO GUILT.