When a loving act is done without thought of changing or controlloing someone and it is not enabling continued use, I believe it is just that...a loving act. Thank you for being kind to your son. One of the first messages I received here that stuck with me, was we can only do what we can live with. That helped me establish boundaries, it helped me distinguish enabling from kindness and it helped me let go of some guilt.
Enjoy your vacation and rest easy knowing he is safe. Hugs