Another option is to forego "confronting" or saying anything about it all, for now. Go to the main AlAnon website and see what's available in your area for group locations/dates/times. Make a commitment to go to at least 2 different groups over the next week or so, and see if one doesn't feel more "comfortable" than another. Then hang out with that group for a few more meetings and see what happens.
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