obsessed...
so many great ideas already posted...
I think any mother would take their child to the ER when they are obviously hurt and in need of medical attention. I don't see this as an act of enabling.
But...maybe... staying by her side, running out to buy her food, missing two days of work and tending to her every need in the hospital are different issues altogether. Doing something nice for the addict and then expecting a thank you for it is a dangerous thing to do. It sounds like your daughter is wrapped pretty tight in her addiction right now and the normal rules of gratitude and appreciation and respect simply don't apply.
I know it hurts.
I hope you'll step back and let her figure things out on her own...let her feel the consequences of her behavior.
I know it can't be easy when its your child but its the only way you can protect yourself and begin to work on YOUR recovery.
Hugs..
I know this must be a really difficult time for you...
Sending prayers and strength your way...