Nowinsituation, thanks, that sounds so familiar to me! I know I have to confront my husband, and I imagine that it will go that same way, he'll talk about cutting down. I've got a therapy appointment tonight after work, and I really wanted to be able to tell her tonight that I've talked to him, but I get the feeling that the therapist doesn't feel like that will do much good anyway. It just feels like it's only fair of me to let him know what jeopardy our relationship is in, but the signs are seeming clearer and clearer to me. I just feel like such a coward and a failure that I can't talk to him about these things. And then there's the logistics of the situation that scare the crap out of me. How do you go about separating yourself from someone when you own a house together, the market absolutely stinks, and neither of you can afford to live in the house afterwards? I'm getting ahead of myself, but these are the places that my practical head always go when I think about the future...