Welcome to SR Ser! I am sorry to hear you are struggling in your relationship. My advice to you hon, would be to figure out the what drinking does to you. How do you feel about it? If it is a problem to you....then it is a problem. I realize I just re-iterated what LaTee said...but this needs to be your focus. I began my search here asking for the definition as well...and I learned myself that it is up to me to make and changes and to evaluate what my hubby's drinking meant to me and our relationship. I also have children and did not want that type of environment for them any longer!
Hugs to you!
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