Welcome. Sorry you find yourself in this situation, but glad you found this forum.
Sounds a lot like my husband about 10 or so years ago. All those things you say aren't happening? Not yet. Alcoholism is progressive. It nearly always gets worse.
Now, whether or not he is an alcoholic, you have a problem with his drinking, right? So, regardless of what label you put on it, it is a problem. The question is not whether he is an alcoholic, it is what are you going to do about your problem? (Yes, I said your problem)
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