So sorry you and Kristina are dealing with this pain. YOU ARE DOING GOOD!. Proud of you! Knowing that, and finding peace in it, is the battle, right? At times like this when our children end up in jail, I am so grateful for this site and our 12 step programs. without it, the disease of addiction would consume us also! The first time my son ended up in jail brought me to Al-Anon, I was spinning out of control with fear, anxiety, and overwhelming sadness and loss. A year later when he is arrested again, it still hurt and saddened but it didn't control my life. I believed he was where he needed to be. ( Wow, I had come far!) And you seem to have also. It is good to hear you still have hope for recovery but you know the path doesn't come from you. they can find the beginning path to recovery in jail, and they have a better chance for a change of heart there then out on the streets. So I'm praying for you both, hoping for the best, but happy you are taking care of you.
Cathy