This website is fabulous, I have only been here a few days and already I feel stronger, and strong enough to do what I need to do. Your kids may think your "mean and evil" but will someday see that you were only tring to do whats best for them. People with addictions use the guilt very well. They know how to work things so it goes there way. You have to be strong and do whatever it is you choose to do but dont give in not even a little. It's hard, bt over time it does get easier. The addiction will always be more important. And he probably can't see the difference because to him he has no problem. Something I have learned recently is, we tend to be angry with the addict when they are under the unfluence, when really it's the sober person we should be angry with because they are the ones taking that first drink, or that first hit ot whatever you know. I would just focus on you and your children and show them how you really live, someday they will understand.