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Old 02-24-2008, 04:27 PM
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GreenTea
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That's excellent news, WH! Thanks for letting us know!

What you did took a lot of courage. Not only confronting your BF but also making arrangements with your parents. It shows that you are serious.

Start the counseling work as soon as possible. Sometimes, with us substance abusers, once a little time has gone by and the "immediacy" has let up -- even after only a day or two -- we figure we've dodged a bullet and that there's no need to "rush things". We think things have "stabilized" and we can breathe a little easier and take our time... Its the disease talking, of course.

I also congratulate you on the "transference of addictions" approach! If nothing else, it frames this into a "we" problem and not a "you" problem. This too took courage.

It sounds like you've both taken one step in the right direction. Don't stop there -- instead get some momentum built up. This means action.

What are you and your BF doing about things tomorrow morning? ... What about tomorrow afternoon, and evening? ... Don't worry about next week yet -- what are you two doing about it twelve hours from now?

What does the action plan say about tonight?
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