The admission did it for me. When I first found out about his alcohlism the night I thought we were getting officially engaged, he promised he going into program. Two months later, I found out he was not in progam and still drinking. Another chance from me. Two months after that, still drinking "socially" and severe verbal abuse came. I left...but not for long. He had a meltdown and SWORE he was in for the long haul this time, attending AA meeting after AA meeting to get help. He told his family what had been going on for the first time. They called me and begged me to talk to him. He was a changed man! I went back. Five weeks later, off the program again and drinking with...HIS FAMILY. He admits he's an A, but alcoholism is a "choice." He is now a "social" drinker with strict rules. I am now single : )