I think it effects all my relationships. I realized that I was sometimes expecting too much from others, so I went the opposite and expected nothing. When that didn't work, I tried to strike a balance with healthy boundaries. That IS working for me now, although I think I have lost at least one selfish, self-centered friend over this. If I look at the entire friendship, what I am really missing? I don't think anything because I got nothing out of the friendship. She, however, got many hours of support during her affairs behind her husband's back. She also got my undivided attention whenever big events in her life were happening. When something came up for me, whether it was needing help during a move from an unsafe place, or support during this break-up, she had lunch plans, or was "sick." After countless times of this I realize it's no loss. At least I don't have to worry about the disappointment anymore.