didn't go out much, mainly due to the fact that she is in a gay relationship and isn't out.
Could this also be a factor for both of you? Her lack of honesty with herself and your need for her to be honest? Her lack of honesty might be a reason for the binging and the running away now. But, she is the one who has to make decisions about her life and who she is. You can only take care of yourself.
ARL