Originally Posted by karmakoma

In order for boundaries to be effective, they need to be expressed in the form of "I" and they need to have an attendent consequence. So, "My husband will not drink around my children" is not a boundary. "I will not allow my children to be around my husband when he is drinking. If he is drinking, I shall remove myself and the children from the home for the day/week/month etc" is a boundary....Boundaries come into play in all sorts of ways and don't even have to involve other people. "I will not eat battery farmed chicken. If I cannot verify the source, I will not eat it."