While my AH was actively drinking and now that he is in recovery, I've had to find things in life to keep me happy, purposeful and all about me. Let's see... when I'm not on this board... I work full time (yuck); I have lots of friends that I do things with (movies, lunch and dinner); I started making bath and body products several years ago, which has turned into a nice little business; I joined the Y and take water aerobics; I started a serious diet (23 pounds down!), and now some friends and I are looking into joining a line dancing group (and they don't hold the lessons at a bar). But I can remember darker days years ago, when my only purpose in life was tracking down my AH, arguing with him, threatening him, trying to control every situation, instead of allowing God to handle it. I was miserable and unhappy. I have learned that life is good and fun, if I allow it to be.