the **** has completely hit the fan
Please see my previous post for a background on this situation. I wrote my parents stating how I feel and they responded to me with nothing but anger and more sick controlling issues.
Here is my parents' response to my letter:
Dear_______________,
I didn't read your note, ___________, and frankly am not
interested in carrying on some sort of family feud.
To me this issue is quite simple; you help your family members when
they need help. You never turn your back on them. You don't make moral
judgements or consider whether or not it's convienient to help.
Any other considerations are simply excuses.
So, it's up to you. If it is more important for you to be "right"
than to love your family then continue in the current vein. Otherwise, be
happy you were able to help and move on.
It wouldn't hurt, however, to apologize to your Mom who has never done
anything but love you with all of her heart. You decide if your pride
is more important than her.
Dad
P.S. Hi Katie,
This is your mom. You completely misunderstood my point. My heart is broken. Do not contact me anymore.
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What the f***?!!!
I am separating myself completely from them. This is what I wrote back:
Hi Mom and Dad,
Dad, since you did not read my note, you did not see that I did apologize to mom for hanging up. Therefore I am not going to apologize because I have nothing to apologize for at this point. I am taking this stand with Jane because as adults this is the decision we have made together. If you cannot see that and wish to isolate yourselves from me, my husband, and us kids, then that is your choice.
Jane is asking me to tell you in this email that she thoroughly appreciated the help, and that she never wanted our help in the first place. My husband and I were nothing but helpful and good natured to her because WE wanted to do it.
I'm sorry you cannot understand my point. If this means we cannot have a relationship for awhile, than so be it.
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Both my parents are insane. I want nothing to do with them. How can I stop feeling so guilty? I know I am right.