Require that he get into treatment - inpatient or outpatient - call your insurance mental health line and they will fax you a list of all the places in your area. It's not just a matter of him wanting to do it and you wanting him to. It's much much harder than that. All my good intentions, all my shame and remorse were absolutely no match for the call of alcohol every single day. Alcohol will kick his butt again and again and again no matter what he does and says unless he gets into a serious treatment program or committs to going to 3 AA mtgs a day. I'm sorry but that's what I found out. I wanted to quit. I knew I couldn't. I tried and tried. I felt like an ass. It didn't matter. I drank. And then I got treatment. And I am now sober for 2 weeks. Not very long but each day seems like a miracle to me. Good luck.