Thank you for the advice LNF...You are right.
GL...I just realized I, too, am carrying around the 500pd weight. I need to find a counselor---if for nothing else---just to deal with the aspect of having guilt over issues related to my brother.
I know its been hard on him since dad died...watching mom go through her "issues", but I realize now, that...there is nothing I can do about that. All I can do is look into the group/foster home thing...educate myself on that and begin a dialogue with my siblings about it.
Thank you LNF...for this useful thread. It has been a window into an issue that I need to consider.