thinking about you....I know that you must like you are in a whirlwind of pain right now. You've come to a place where there are poeple that understand how you feel. You still have options - as Dr. Phil says "active addiction is a deal breaker". Addiction changes the perspective on everything - even marriage.
I'm glad that you are here. The best things that I did when I realized that I was involved with an addict were to read everything that I could on addiction and codependency, get to Naranon/Alanon meetgins, get to counselling, and work the steps.
You are not alone......take care of yourself. Marriages have a hard time surviving betrayal and lies. Just remember, his addiction has nothing to do with your value. He is sick. I've never won in any fights with drugs - they are the ultimate mistress.
I'm thinking about you - Donna