Originally Posted by marle

My only child is my addict. She is 21 and uses crack/heroin, all of which is supplied by her 38 year old addict boyfriend. Addiction brings with it chaos, as I am sure that you know. You say that she is out of your house and that she has stolen from you. First, report the theft, cancel your card, and set a boundary that she is not allowed back into your house. My daughter does not get a penny from me, she is not allowed to move back to my home. I will help her find rehab when she is ready, but I do not push for her to go because I know it does no good. You really are powerless over her addiction, but you are not powerless over choices that you can make to make your life more bearable. The best thing that I ever did was to not speak with my daughter for 7+ months. It gave me time to work on me, set my boundaries and accept the things that I could not change. I know that you want to find your daughter help, but as long as you are doing all the work she does not have to take responsibility for the things that she is doing. Take a step back. You might think that it is impossible, but believe me when I say it is not. You are risking your marriage, your health and your happiness for something that you have no control over. I hope that you find a way to find some peace for yourself. Hugs, Marle