Welcome! Glad you are here! I know the lying behavior associated with addicts can be very hurtful/troubling, but that isn't near as bad as their "acting out" behavior. My ex would become extremely violent at times--say or do mean, hurtful things--then claim to not have remembered doing them. I don't know if I ever really believed that but we are not together anymore due to one violent outburst in which he nearly killed me. I don't know which substance your husband is into---my ex was a crack addict. I'd just say--keep reading the posts here and possibly look into a local Nar-anon group in your area for support. :codiepolice