Hi there Help,
Welcome to SR, I'm glad you have found this site, and you have had some really great suggestions already, reading up and educating yourself on how best to look after YOU is the way to go. I know I got so caught up in trying to help my abf, and 'show him the way' but in the end things were just falling apart and we both resented one another. It was only after I started working my own recovery and left him to his that things began to improve.
keep posting!
Love Lily xxxxxxxxx