I know what you mean about small towns.
When people talk about picking a different home group if you
don't like the one you're in well..we only have one group haha.
And most nights it is 10-15 people, and some of the noon meetings are 3-5.
But honestly, I was nervous at first too, aslo being younger than most of the people
there, but after time it became one of my favorite places to go, and now has
a calming effect on me.
I admit I don't have an ex in there, I can see how that could make it harder.
Overall, though, I think the longer you go and the more you get to know the people
- and realize that everything you've gone through, at least some of the people
there have already been there done that with - the more comforting of a
place it becomes.