sounds as if he is going to lose either way. he is an addict & he is going to use. when he gets caught shoplifting he is going to jail. i am sorry you are going through all of this. it has got to be hard. try doing something good for yourself & try to keep the focus on you. it is nothing you can do for him. addicts steal & they lie & thats what they do. try to stay strong.saying prayers for you & him both. hugs,