Welcome herdaughter
I am so sorry for your pain. Alcoholism is a tragic and heart breaking condition that just doesn't consume the alcoholic... but can potentially destroy the lives of those closest to them. I am the grandaughter (my mother's mother), daughter (my father) and wife (husband-deceased) of an alcoholic. Please understand that you are really not dealing with your mother, but what alcohol addiction had transformed her into.
Please keep coming back to this forum and keep reading ...you will learn so much and feel you surrounded by people the understand what you are going through.