Alice Kate,
I'm sorry for the pain and the confusion you are experiencing right now.
Originally Posted by
Alice Kate 
I am by no means a stupid person, so why do I have such a hard time accepting the fact, and keep asking myself why all the time. It's like my brain understands it, but my heart simply will not catch up.
I have certainly found in my situation with my now ex, that it took a very long time for my heart to catch up to what my brain understood. It takes work for sure. But until that time, I felt torn and confused too.
I'm glad you're giving Alanon a good try. Between that, the therapy you're doing, and by coming here, it will happen, but, not overnight! Keep coming back!
