by myself again

Someone posted that they try to control there spouses drinking in various ways and that got me thinking. Usually I try to make sure he eats, bring him bottles of water or juice hoping he will have some in between beers. The last 3 days I dont think he has eaten until 10 at night. I feel Im starting to detatch because each night I let him know I made dinner and left it at that. Normally I would have made a plate up and brought it to him complete with a big glass of milk. There is still a steak sitting on a plate on the stove right now and I haven't even told him he better eat soon. If he doesnt want totake care of himself, I can't make him can I? He often hangs out in the garage out back because we dont have smoking in the house. Normally I would be bugging him to come inside and hang out with me. Sometimes he would other times he would get mad saying it wasn't up to him to keep me entertained, which wasn't it at all, I just wanted to spend some time with him. Not the last 3 nights. Whatever, if he wants to drink and smoke all by himself so be it, I'll come here for support. Also, I'm starting to feel more sad than angry (with occasional bouts of anger still) and am feeling sorry for him. I think I am making a timy step of progress in learning how to deal with this all without screaming and yelling and crying. Staying calm is easier now. I have the kind folks here to thank. The ones who responded to my posts and the ones posting and I just read others stories and the advise given to them
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