I will share with you my experience from her side of the coin.
My first 4 or so years sober, I know today, not then, that I didn't know if I was coming or going. I got married at 1 1/2 years sober. BIG MISTAKE. Needless to say, the marriage didn't work. I myself was not ready, even though I thought I was.
I give this lady a lot of credit, even though it is putting you in confusion. She is backing off probably out of uncertainty, fear, her own confusion, etc.
You have gotten some GREAT advice above.
I'd keep up the meetings, learn to take control of my own life (which is what I did).
Excellent Denny.
You have choices. You can choose to wait. You can choose to continue to work on you. Remember, as you work on you, your feelings for her may or may not change.
If you two are meant to be together, it will happen, or
And if you're still there waiting, you can get back together. The choice to wait is yours. There are several possible outcomes. She finds you, you've waited and you get back together; she finds you, you've met someone else and moved on; she finds you to tell you she's met someone else.
None of us can tell the future. I can say from my own experience, she probably just doesn't know yet, because she is still peeling away the layers of her own onion.
J M H O
Love and hugs,