What best says, plus:
I was using my DOC to have a mental/emotional state that was a known quality. I erronously enjoyed not dealing with my soul's reactions to things. I didn't like and felt uncomfortable with my natural reactions to life events. As a result I was seeking to control my life through the use of my DOC.
For me, step three means accepting that there may be uncomfortable moments each day and realizing that it is unhealthy not to pay attention to my inborn reactions to things. I feel that there are important messages from my subconcious (higher power if that suits ya) that are revealing who I am and how I am relating to the people and events in my life.
When I was high I could avoid these messages. So now at 20+ months sober I am learning to live again and accept the happy reactions and the not so great ones as they come. I've given over control to my higher power.
That and I try not to think so much.