Originally Posted by
leogirl 
My bf is a pain sometimes, but I don't consider him to be abusive by any means. I really do not expect that he will start using again nor do I see any warnings signs.
My exabf couldn't have been further from abusive, he was (so i thought) kind, loving, and caring. But he was a raging alcoholic that is seeking recovery (he's not drinking, but he's not living a healthy sober life either....BIG difference). I'm starting to realize (thanks to SR) that i couldn't live with him drunk or sober...this is who he is period. Someone that displays total unacceptable behavior, he held onto that "nice guy" attitude for as long as he could and the true him came out.