Thanks everyone! My bf is a pain sometimes, but I don't consider him to be abusive by any means. I really do not expect that he will start using again nor do I see any warnings signs. Many times prior to living together, I actually forgot he was an addict/alcholic. It was just such a non-issue.
Now that we live together, I'm seeing parts of him that I never got to see before. I realized that if we are spending a life together, I better eduate myself. The only problem I seem to find (the same problem I have with the mental health field) is that everyone is lumped together under the diagnosis. Addicts all behave this way, or depressed people all behave that way. Are addicts really more similar than any other group?
They all relapse, they all must go to AA?