Hey there Jo, I know its soooo hard when its family, my brother is an addict your right though she does have to fix it herself, as much as we want to help them, we cant and thats the hard part (tough love) its one of the hardest things to do, especially with a loved one, but you can and believe it or not thats what she needs you to do, it takes alot of courage, and strength, it sounds like you have both so be strong and my prayers go out to you... keep us posted on how its going... GOD BLESS